Hope in the Heartbreak

If someone told you there was hope in the heartbreak would you believe them?

Heartbreak causes hurt, and hurt can cause you to reach a state of hopelessness.

How many times have you been left heartbroken in this life? Maybe a family member has broken your heart or maybe you have had friendships that caused heartbreak or maybe you’ve been in a romantic relationship which ended in heartbreak?

Or, maybe you have experienced heartbreak from all three of these situations at some point in your life.

I remember very clearly the first time I experienced heartbreak.

At the time I would not have used the word heartbreak, but looking back, it definitely broke my heart because it left me feeling unwanted, unseen, hopeless, and not good enough. I was 13 years old, in middle school, and I was left standing alone, outside on the basketball court.

I had just spent part of my lunch period in the bathroom fixing every hair on my head, making sure they were all in place. My bright purple eyeshadow and lip gloss was poppin’. As I took one final look in the mirror, I smiled and said, “Today is the day” and I quickly turned around and walked out of the bathroom and back outside.

Today was the day I had finally gained enough courage to approach my middle school crush on the basketball courts.

As I slowly approached, I practiced over and over in my head, exactly what I was going to say to him. The palms of my hands were now damp with sweat and my heart was racing so fast I thought it was going to jump out of my chest. 

Have you ever been in a situation where you finally had enough courage to do something that could either leave you feeling giddy and “on top of the world,” or leave you disappointed, discouraged, rejected, unseen, and hopeless, all over again? This moment was that type of situation for me.

As I continued to approach the basketball court where my crush was standing, I decided it was worth the risk of putting myself out there.

As I made my way to the basketball court, I nervously called his name. He suddenly stopped playing and looked over at me. “What?” He said.

At this point I wanted to turn around and run away, but I quickly said, “Um, would you want to go out with me?” I stuttered as I said it. He stared at me and then looked back at his friends and they all burst out laughing. He then quickly responded, “No, I don’t want to.” Laughed, turned back around, and started to play basketball with his friends like nothing had happened.

I was left standing there all alone. I put my head down, turned around, and quickly walked back to the bathroom as tears were streaming down my face.

It was just another risk I took in order to feel wanted, seen, and chosen and it ended up reminding me of how I actually felt: unloved, unwanted, unseen, and hopeless.

I wish I could say this was the only time I experienced this type of hurt and heartbreak, but as I grew older I continued down this path of heartbreak with all types of relationships. 

How many times in your life have you taken a risk in hopes that it would leave you feeling on top of the world, but instead left you heartbroken, hurt, and hopeless?

Maybe you’re familiar with the feeling of emptiness, loneliness, and hopelessness. Maybe you’re familiar with pretending you are confident and everything is perfect, but deep down inside you feel lost, insecure, unseen, and uncared for. 

Maybe that’s why when I say, “There is hope in heartbreak” you have a hard time believing it. 

I understand because I used to be in the exact same situation as you. I felt trapped in the hurt and pain. I did not believe I would ever escape it. I had a hard time believing in hope. But today, I can say I have found HOPE in the Heartbreak.

Maybe you’re asking, “how can you find hope in the heartbreak?”

Here’s How: There is hope in the heartbreak when you choose to not stay stuck in the hurt.

You stay stuck in the hurt when you choose to ignore the hurt that heartbreak has caused.

You stay stuck in the hurt when you decide to push it away and keep moving forward.

You stay stuck in the hurt when you believe that time will heal all.

You stay stuck living in the hurt and pain that heartbreak has caused your entire life when you choose not to address it.

And when you stay stuck in the hurt, you will continue to find yourself stuck in the cycle of heartbreak. Because everything you do flows from the heart. (Proverbs 4:23).

That’s why hurt people hurt people. When your heart isn’t healed and whole, you continue to live from a place of hurt and pain.  

Hope is only found in the heartbreak when you choose to seek healing instead of choosing to stay stuck.

Healing from all the hurt that heartbreak has caused throughout your life takes courage, but it’s the only way to truly be set FREE. It’s the only way to live a life of FULLNESS.

When I decided years ago to seek transformational healing I found hope. I was set free from the chains and cycles that the hurt I was holding onto was keeping me bound in. In John 10:10 the Amplified Version, we see Jesus say, “The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows].”

Walking in freedom is possible. Walking with a lightness and ease is possible. Living a life FULLY ALIVE is possible.

But, it’s only possible when you choose to acknowledge and address the hurt you’ve been holding onto and instead of hiding it, you choose to take it to the feet of Jesus, who is the ultimate healer. You don’t have to live a life being weighed down by the chains of heartbreak.

Today, I walk in wholeness, freedom, and fullness. I am no longer a captive to the hurt I experienced in my life. I live, FULLY ALIVE!

Finding Hope in the Heartbreak is possible for YOU too! But will you take the first step of courage to seek transformational healing or will you choose to stay stuck in the hurt and hopelessness? A Life of FULLNESS is waiting for you!

Here’s to New Beginnings! xo