Adopting a kingdom mindset and communicating like a queen is not about being pompous or condescending. It is about projecting confidence, respect, and grace in your interactions with others.
As we begin to understand our identity in Christ we can then give our lives over to God and accept our new life and new identity in Christ. Only then do we become daughters of the King.
“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”1 Peter 2:9 NLT
Let’s break down the pieces of this passage of Scripture:
- Chosen. God chose you first. Before the foundation of the earth, He chose you and created you with His purpose. Then you chose Him when you gave your life to Christ.
- Priesthood. We are royalty, born again into the family of God. Children of the King.
- God’s possession. Belonging to God. Purchased with a high price. Valuable, worthy.
- Consecrated (set apart). We have been separated from this world. Called out of darkness into His light.
Tips for Adopting a Kingdom Mindset
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1: Know Who You Are
“For you created my inmost being;Psalm 139:13-17 NIV
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God!
How vast is the sum of them!”
We were created beautifully.
God decided before you were born what color eyes you would have. He designed your nose. He made your hair curly or straight.
He gave you skills, abilities, and birth order. All these are from Him intentionally for His purpose.
We are God’s masterpiece (artwork, prize, greatest achievement), created just the way we are.
Called as King’s kids princes and princesses.
Take Queen Esther for example.
When she was chosen as queen and arrived at the palace, immediately she began preparations to be queen.
Training, education, and beauty treatments became her world. She had to be educated in her role and so do we.
“She pleased him and won his favor. Immediately he provided her with her beauty treatments and special food. He assigned to her seven female attendants selected from the king’s palace and moved her and her attendants into the best place in the harem.”Esther 2:9 NIV
Our preparations begin when we accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.
Reading the Word of God, prayer and Bible study help us understand who we are so we can act like the royalty we have become.
As we get to know God through His word, we learn the character of our Father. Then we can understand our position as royal children and learn to act like it.
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”Ephesians 2:10 NIV
Workmanship: masterpiece, handiwork, beautiful and worthy
2: Learn How to Walk like a Queen
“We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.”2 Corinthians 5:20 NIV
Ambassadors: speaking for the King, president, or God.
The example of the ambassador role in a foreign country: Someone who represents the government of that country in a foreign land as if the King or President were there in person.
Ambassadors have the same voice in the foreign land as if speaking for the King or President.
We walk in the authority of the One who sent us. We operate not in our authority but His. When we have God confidence and not self-confidence, we can be bold because we represent Him.
Our voice carries Heaven’s authority.
How will others know we represent the King?
By the way we speak, the way we stand, and the way we act. This is non-verbal communication. Remember that communication isn’t just about words; it also includes body language and gestures:
- Maintaining good posture is a sign of confidence and authority.
- Making eye contact, implies “I am secure and not afraid of you.”
- Using appropriate facial expressions to bring clear messages.
- Hand gestures used sparingly and purposefully can be helpful.
All of these are great tools to help us communicate like a queen, but if we don’t realize it or feel like royalty, those inward thoughts will project through our outward expressions.
We must believe what the Bible says about us.
It is key that we separate ourselves from contact with contaminating and corrupting influences to be convinced of our royal position (if the vessel is filled with other things then it can’t be filled with God’s purposes).
We are God’s equipment, His tool, His weapon.
Think of a piece of paper: it is not a glove and cannot be used as one. We can only succeed when we do what we were created to do.
3: Speak Like a Queen
“My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words, but with a demonstration of the Spirit’s power.”1 Corinthians 2:4 NIV
When communicating like a queen, it is important to convey confidence, authority, and grace.
Speak with authority. We are given authority to do what Jesus did. He spoke with authority. He knew who He was, and He knew the plan of God for mankind to be saved.
Jesus had purpose and passion. So do we.
“They went to Capernaum, and when the Sabbath came, Jesus went into the synagogue and began to teach. 22 The people were amazed at his teaching, because he taught them as one who had authority, not as the teachers of the law.”Mark 1:21-22 NIV
“I don’t speak on my own authority. The Father who sent me has commanded me what to say and how to say it.”John 12:49 NLT
Because we are royalty, we are leaders. The greatest characteristic of a leader is kindness. We must exemplify kindness in our speech and actions.
Ask yourself before you speak: is what I am about to say necessary? Is it helpful? Is it kind? A great leader understands the importance of being kind.
"Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." - Proverbs 16:24 NIV
"Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near." - Philippians 4:5 NIV
We are ambassadors for Christ, the spokesperson for the message of salvation.
“How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them?”Romans 10:14 NIV
The voice of a queen is filled with authority.
Her voice commands attention. She is sure of her message because of her family name and her training.
Her motive is to be helpful and instructive. Her voice and tone are kind, caring and considerate.
Make sure when you speak, you have something worth saying. Think before you speak.